Several years ago, I was married before to a man who did not respect me. For a long time, I blamed myself for his bad attitude, and so did he. Then one day, about nine months into our marriage, it hit me: he was just a jerk.
I left him a few weeks later. But before I left, I asked him what I had done wrong to make him treat me the way he did. He paused for a minute, thinking. Then, finally, he admitted he could think of nothing.
Of course, I had done something wrong. I mean, everyone does something wrong sometimes. Right?
But the question you have to ask yourself if you find yourself in this situation is: did you *really* do anything wrong?
Is it my fault this isn’t working, or is it theirs?
Only you know the answer to that.
It is somewhere inside you, somewhere where there is no confusion.
If it’s your fault, your relationship may still have a chance.
If it’s their fault, my advice is to end it now or you will be struggling to “make it work” for the rest of your life.
It is possible to be blissfully happy with someone. It really is.
Let yourself believe that it is possible for you.
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