Guest contributor: Bethany of www.journeytoselfacceptance.wordpress.com.
Six or seven years ago, things weren’t quite right with my life. I was thirty–a good age to be. I was married. We had the two-income, two-car, white picket fence American dream thing going on. But I just wasn’t feeling my life … Rush hour traffic, a cubicle, short coffee breaks and one hour lunches, living for Friday night happy hours and cramming everything worthwhile into the weekends. Sure, I was successful … But was I happy?
Well, the answer to that was “no.”
So, I set out to make some changes. First, I started a gratitude journal … And it worked! It made me feel like the world was bigger than just my little day-to-day tasks. Then, from there, I decided to do more. I started reading Louise Hay and Abraham Hicks and I watched a movie based on the book The Secret.
Now, at first this New Age stuff sounds like wishful thinking or living in your own world of make-believe.For a while there, I just could not see how positive statements would work to change my current existence.
Then it began to sink in: This kind of thinking can lead to very specific and highly impactful shifts in your identity and core beliefs about yourself.
Here’s an example: Though I have always wanted to be a mother, I was pretty petrified at the thought of all that responsibility and unsure that I could live up to my end of the bargain. I had very deep-seated insecurities and a neediness that overpowered my natural ability to give everything I had to a baby. So, I worked on affirming and visualizing myself as a confident mother and soon, I decided that I AM A MOM!
And here’s the cool thing: For the first time, I felt it. I believed it. I hadn’t even become a mom yet but I knew I was one. I can only describe it as someone else telling me–my higher Self, or God–that it was true. My critical mind didn’t matter. I suddenly believed in myself!
After that, I took a pregnancy test … and it was positive.
Of course, I had anxieties while expecting (I still do and he’s now three!). But I don’t doubt to my core that I am a good mother.
After Rachel and Matthew had their first child, they had a couple of fights. Well, okay, more than a couple—they fought for over three years. They fought about schedules. They fought about bad habits. They even fought about the lawn mower. And besides actually having their child, it was the best thing that could've happened. Get Fights You’ll Have After Having a Baby: A Self-Help Story on Amazon now.