When my husband and I started trying to have a baby a few years back, we didn’t exactly have a hard time. Within three months, I was pregnant. However, that one didn’t last long, so soon after that, we started trying again. Though at the time I didn’t know anything about the law of attraction–the idea that one’s thoughts can actually create their reality–now that I look back on it, I think it had something to do with what happened next.
Here’s what happened: One morning, I woke up and (as I used to do religiously) stepped on the scale. Lo, and behold! The weight loss I’d expected from a recent diet had not occurred; I had, in fact, gained a little. As this was around the third month after the second pregnancy attempt, I made a very quick inference: It took this long to get pregnant last time, I thought. And this is the average amount of time it takes a fertile couple to conceive.
Conclusion: I must be pregnant!
Later that day, I made the announcement to my husband. “Honey,” I said, “The scale was up today! I think it might have happened!”
Of course, being a wise and judicious gentleman, my husband didn’t believe me. But three weeks later, after missing my period, I took a test–and it showed the slightest hint of the pregnancy hormone–so slight that my husband still didn’t believe I had conceived.
“I told you!” I said two weeks later when I took it again and again, it was positive. “I told you over a month ago!”
When I went to the doctor a little while later, though, and after I got my ultrasound, she had a different opinion.
“The dates don’t line up with your missed period,” she said, “and the ultrasound confirms that the pregnancy happened two weeks later than you originally thought.”
Then, when the baby was born two weeks after the later due date, I knew it was true. I hadn’t been pregnant when I’d first, based on scant and unreliable evidence, thought. Instead, the pregnancy had occurred a week or two after I already believed I’d conceived.
After Rachel and Matthew had their first child, they had a couple of fights. Well, okay, more than a couple—they fought for over three years. They fought about schedules. They fought about bad habits. They even fought about the lawn mower. And besides actually having their child, it was the best thing that could've happened. Get Fights You’ll Have After Having a Baby: A Self-Help Story on Amazon now.