Life Hack for Getting Suddenly Awesome: Don’t Help People


I have a serious weakness. It’s for people I love.

You see—I want them to get happy, even though they can’t always seem to do that.

So what do I do?

First, I try to help them—which doesn’t usually work too well. Second—and even worse—I feel guilty for being happy when they aren’t.

Crap. I’m so imperfect sometimes.

Oh, well. I am working on it, I promise. I swear. This one will take some time, though.


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  1. I have the same problem and I’m trying to work on it too (not working). I feel guilty for EVERYTHING. Not just about being happy but about things that we take for granted: hot water, a good car, peace at night. It truly is a problem I need to work on because I don’t want to seem ungrateful either. Maybe its the Catholic in me. Either way – when you find a way to shut it off, gimme a call.

  2. ha. Help to help, not to make them happy. Help and that is it – the outcome (i.e., their happiness or non-happiness) is none of our business. This is how I try to view it anyway.

  3. I feel that if someone wants help, that is fine. But I don’t believe in helping someone to be dependant on me (as in not learning for themselves, or responsible for themselves).