78 Alternative Spirituality Life Hacks

Self-improvement tips for the self-help obsessed: that’s pretty much what you’ll find here. Some are spiritual, some are secular, some are well-known and some are a bit kooky … but, in my experience, all of them work. At least, they work to some degree. (Even the kooky ones.)

78 Alternative Spirituality Life Hacks

The Spiritual Stuff:

  • Meditate
  • Get a mantra–or two or three
  • Know the power of your mind
  • Know that you are strong, beautiful and holy
  • Don’t define your morality too strictly
  • Don’t put God in a box
  • Pray
  • Believe that you can
  • Read spiritual books

The Shallow Stuff:

  • Smile
  • Go outside
  • Have nice friends
  • Buy new clothes
  • Get a (healthy) addiction
  • Play video games
  • Drink caffeine
  • Cut Your hair
  • Sing
  • Figure out what you want
  • Get what you want
  • Get a job
  • Get educated
  • Smell good
  • Get some money
  • Live somewhere you love to be
  • Travel, even if you don’t want to
  • Shop for friends
  • Get a hobby–or two or three
  • Sometimes, just take a long bath or shower

The Serious Stuff:

  • Pretend you’re already the best version of you
  • Don’t try to be funnier, cuter, happier or smarter than you are
  • Don’t believe all your thoughts
  • Understand human nature
  • Read books on psychology
  • Let yourself feel your feelings deeply
  • Cultivate a romance with yourself
  • Reconsider what you really need
  • Always get some perspective
  • Always tell yourself the truth
  • Find out who you are and do it on purpose
  • Be a real grownup
  • Get things done
  • Stop the little sadness before it gets too big
  • Sometimes, just give yourself a break
  • Read amazing, paradigm-shifting nonfiction
  • Throw out the blueprint
  • Don’t be too busy, but don’t get bored
  • Screw variety; do what works
  • Know when to try and when to just let things happen
  • Know that life is a game and play it on purpose
  • Strategize
  • Be relentless
  • Be as intellectually flexible as you can be
  • Try, and try, and then try some more
  • Don’t expect too much of other people
  • Be passionate about a few wonderful things, and don’t hide your passion
  • Don’t assume anything about anyone, ever
  • Don’t hate optimists
  • Take medication
  • Let people go that are gone
  • Beware of middle age and complacency
  • Make lofty goals
  • Keep a monthly checklist and put everything you need to do there, all in one spot
  • Find the beauty in your seeming flaws
  • Find the better-feeling interpretation in every situation
  • Find “flow”–at work and everywhere else you can
  • Notice your negativity
  • Don’t play the guilt trip game, especially on yourself
  • Do something nice for others at least once a week
  • Always do what you’re afraid to do
  • Don’t try to stand out for its own sake
  • Learn to love your own mistakes and to admit when you’re wrong

The Love Stuff:

  • Learn to love being alone
  • Whenever possible, don’t fight; just talk instead
  • Don’t make babies until you just have to
  • Don’t lie, even about the bad things
  • Learn how to break the truth gently
  • Search for love without shame
  • Learn how to listen


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  1. I have read some of these and I am sure will read others. I imagine I read them all when they were originally posted. I have created my own blog linking to this post. My readers thank you.

  2. I, too, have fought depression. I see. To have won, about 2 years now. If you are female, enjoy being a girl- even at 73. Get one of the 5 drawer, plastic cabinets on wheels. Make sure you have your space, bedroom for me, fixed with all things joy. Lg screen TV, Smart Phone or laptop, shop Amazon for a line of beauty products for everything from your feet, teeth, hair and especially skin. Stop coloring your hair or cutting it for natural hair that is who you are. Pamper your complexion with your own facial that, after trials, you love most. Do your nails a very light, pink natural or if you love color, go for it. Always, but and wear sexy shoes. If age prevents heels, get strappy low wedgies, toes and heels out, top & sides out some too. Work on your feet until they are soft, slender and beauties. Explore buying jewelry, at my age, I have bought magnets, for necklaces, and it takes only a second to put on a fine chain with a Tahitian single Pearl, I have lots of beautiful jewelry but none of it is expensive, just makes you feel lovely. If you can, order some new clothes from Macy’s, especially night gowns and silky things that feel good on your skin. Take beautiful care of who you want to be, inside even more than out. Keep a cheap spiral notebook, and yes, must be hand written, no technology. Keep a dated, running list of everything you see, hear or otherwise come into contact with that, after giving it some thought you think it might make you happy justthought, you think it might make you happy – just seeing it or noticing it in some way. Every day, try to find smaller things to be happy about. I liked the cracks in my driveway because they were familiar and meant that I was home. Writing it is important because your hand writing comes from inside you. These things have helped me after the death of my husband, who I dearly loved. Good luck with depression,

    1. Wow, what a comment! I love that you are enjoying life! And that you are reaching out. If you’d like me to share your story in a post of its own, let me know. You seem like such a fun person.