Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday #10: "Dying to Be Me" by Anita Moorjani


Dear kids,

Faith is overrated. Belief isn’t important. Dogma is definitely to be discouraged. Knowledge and concepts hinder us from realizing our unique magnificence. They often cause us to get stuck.

This is one of the core messages that near-death survivor Anita Moorjani brought back from the other side and shared in her book, Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing. Another: Find a way to be yourself. Shake off the comparisons, the judgments, the insecurities, and discover who you truly are inside. That is the way to find inner peace, even physical healing.

Learn how to just enjoy being who you are.

For me, this message came at just the right time, when I was trying to make a big career decision. When I let go of my need to control the situation externally, the answer surfaced from deep within. Which I why today I’m a stay-at-home-mom–but I’m a writer, too.

The implications of this simple message, however, may affect any or every area of life. Even the little stuff–should I wear this trendy dress, or this one that I feel more myself in?–can withstand a bit of self-awareness and introspection.

Here, my highlights:

  • “It seems as though our five senses limit us to focus only on one point in time at any given moment, and we string these together to create an illusion of linear reality. Our physicality also limits our perception of the space around us, confining us to only what our eyes and ears can see and hear or to what we can touch, smell, or taste. However, without the limitations of my body, I took in all points of time and space as they pertained to me, all at once. MY HEIGHTENED AWARENESS IN THAT EXPANDED realm was indescribable, despite my best efforts to explain it. The clarity was amazing. The universe makes sense! I realized. I finally understand—I know why I have cancer!”
  • “My experience was like a single thread woven through the huge and complexly colorful images of an infinite tapestry. All the other threads and colors represented my relationships, including every life I’d touched . . . I may have been only one thread, yet I was integral to the overall finished picture. Seeing this, I understood that I owed it to myself, to everyone I met, and to life itself to always be an expression of my own unique essence. Trying to be anything or anyone else didn’t make me better—it just deprived me of my true self!”
  • “I also understood that the cancer was not some punishment for anything I’d done wrong, nor was I experiencing negative karma as a result of any of my actions, as I’d previously believed. It was as though every moment held infinite possibilities, and where I was at that point in time was a culmination of every decision, every choice, and every thought of my entire life. My many fears and my great power had manifested as this disease.”
  • “IN THE MOMENT THAT I MADE THE DECISION TO GO on toward death, I became aware of a new level of truth. I discovered that since I’d realized who I really was and understood the magnificence of my true self, if I chose to go back to life, my body would heal rapidly—not in months or weeks, but in days!
  • I perceived that I wouldn’t have to go out and search for what I was supposed to do—it would unfold before me. It involved helping lots of people—thousands, maybe tens of thousands, perhaps to share a message with them. But I wouldn’t have to pursue anything or work at figuring out how I was going to achieve that. I simply had to allow it to unfold. To access this state of allowing, the only thing I had to do was be myself!”
  • “Sometimes, when I had a lot to do and things were stressful, I was accused of wasting time if I took a break to get centered. But if I tried to resolve things purely on the physical level, I knew it would be slow going. To this day, it still feels like walking through molasses, and dealing with issues only in this way causes me great frustration and increases my stress levels.”
  • “I WANT TO CLARIFY THAT MY HEALING wasn’t so much born from a shift in my state of mind or beliefs as it was from finally allowing my true spirit to shine through. Many have asked me if something like positive thinking caused my recovery, and the answer is no. The state I was in during my NDE was way beyond the mind, and I healed because my damaging thoughts were simply out of the way completely. I was not in a state of thinking, but a state of being. It was pure consciousness—what I call magnificence!”
  • “Because of this, I believe that when someone has a glimpse of what have previously been interpreted as ‘past lives,’ they’re actually accessing parallel or simultaneous existences, because all time exists at once.”
  • “It can be tricky at first to distinguish what’s motivating us. The difference is that the mind is more about doing, and the soul is more about being. The infinite self is our essence.”
  • “The infinite self is where we have our instincts and intuition. If we’re buying a house, the mind will narrow down the options by choosing a practical location, setting a budget, and so on. The final decision on a specific place to live, however, may be made purely by gut feeling. We just get a good sense about a certain place, and there’s no logical reason that we can explain. That’s the infinite self.”
  • “I have discovered that to determine whether my actions stem from ‘doing’ or “being,” I only need to look at the emotion behind my everyday decisions. Is it fear, or is it passion? If everything I do each day is driven by passion and a zest for living, then I’m ‘being,’ but if my actions are a result of fear, then I’m in ‘doing’ mode.”
  • “I can’t say this strongly enough, but our feelings about ourselves are actually the most important barometer for determining the condition of our lives! In other words, being true to ourselves is more important than just trying to stay positive!”
  • “Finally, I can’t stress enough how important it is to enjoy yourself and not take yourself or life too seriously.”

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  1. Thanks for this recommendation. It looks really good. I open all your emails & look at them, even if I don’t always comment.