Financial stability means many things to many people. However, positive psychology research clearly shows that people living above the poverty line are significantly happier than people who live under it, while wealthy people are only marginally happier than middle class folks. For optimal mental health, then, getting your needs met–not continually wanting more–should be the goal.
In Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending, authors Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton explore the ways we can use our money to increase our happiness and well-being. They argue that while money can bring happiness, it’s not just about how much money you have, but how you spend it. They offer five principles for spending money in ways that increase happiness, including buying experiences instead of things; buying time; investing in others; paying now and consuming later; and designing your environment. The authors also explore the limitations of money in terms of increasing happiness and the importance of non-monetary factors, such as strong relationships and a sense of purpose, in fostering well-being.
Two other personal finance books that I recommend are Dollars and Sense: How We Misthink Money and How to Spend Smarter by Dan Ariely and Jeff Kreisler, as well as the classic Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not! by Robert Kiyosaki. The latter discusses investing, while the former coaches the reader through spending traps they do best to avoid.
If desired, add “maintaining financial stability” to your depression treatment plan. Then consider specific ways to improve your finances, such as creating a budget, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 17: Identifying a sense of purpose
You’ve heard the quote by 19th-century philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche: “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” For people with chronic depression, their shifting mood states are a big part of the “how”–the adversity they face on their way to their goal. So they need a “why,” too.
Does your career, your community, your art or your volunteer project give you a deep sense of purpose? Maybe it’s your spirituality or religion that helps you find the underlying meaning that makes your current circumstances more bearable.
If you’re not sure what your purpose in life is, consider journaling about everything you care most about. Is there a theme? One of my clients told me that the purpose of his life was to simply “do no harm.” I pondered this a moment before realizing that the goal’s simplicity hid its nobility. Do no harm. It was a larger ambition than any I’ve ever made for myself–one with potentially far-reaching consequences for his life.
The aforementioned Martin Seligman, one of the founders of positive psychology, argued in his many popular books that happiness isn’t just about feeling good. A sense of well-being includes all emotional experiences; it’s defined not by a person’s feelings but by their sense of connectedness and meaning. One of his many profound quotes comes from Authentic Happiness: Using Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment: “Positive emotion alienated from the exercise of character leads to emptiness, to inauthenticity, to depression, and, as we age, to the gnawing realization that we are fidgeting until we die.”
Don’t just fidget. Live a well-rounded, meaningful life.
If desired, add “finding my life purpose” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a medication provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 16: Increasing your job satisfaction
Doing work you love doesn’t have to mean changing careers. There are many ways to increase job satisfaction. Bringing meaning to tasks you already do can help: think of the restaurant server who finds pleasure in creating an enjoyable customer experience. You can also seek out additional challenges and more workplace autonomy–even small changes can make a big difference. Above all, avoid getting bored.
In the classic work Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi identifies the characteristics of satisfying work. Among other qualities, jobs people like tend to be challenging, attention-absorbing and autonomous, providing the worker a sense of control. When a person feels fully engaged to the point of losing their self-consciousness, they are in a state of mind Csikszentmihalyi famously calls “flow.”
Tasks that people might not normally find enjoyable can become so when the worker has ownership and the power to make decisions. In Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion and Purpose, Zappos founder Tony Hsieh says that call center employees who are unscripted and who are allowed to offer small discounts or free shipping at their own discretion show higher degrees of job satisfaction.
Another way to feel better about the work you currently do is to view it as a stepping stone to a greater goal. Coffee shops aren’t just coffee shops: they’re places recent college grads work at while they send out resumes, save for a trip to Spain or apply to master’s degree programs.
If you don’t currently have a clear career path or career goal, take some time to brainstorm ideas. Even if your plan changes (as most of them do), it can provide next steps and, critically, hope.
If desired, add “increasing my job satisfaction” and/or “creating a career path” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on specific ways to do so and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 15: Addressing health issues
It’s difficult to feel mentally well when we don’t feel physically well. But many of us delay needed medical care due to financial constraints, time constraints and even fear. Doctor appointments can feel vulnerable, painful and difficult to schedule. However, prioritizing these needs is an important part of self-care, and can improve one’s feeling of self-efficacy.
If desired, add “addressing health issues” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a medical provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 14: Overcoming addiction or improving your relationship with substances
As you likely know, frequent substance use is strongly associated with chronic depression. In the short-term, it encourages avoidance of pressing problems and needed tasks. It also represses or delays emotional expression and the grief process. In the long-term, this avoidance and repression leads to slowed emotional growth, since distress tolerance, healthy habits, interpersonal skills and other important life functions are not learned as quickly. Some people also experience acute negative effects from poor decision-making related to substance-related mental and physical impairment.
Feeling feelings is hard, but it’s an important part of maintaining mental stability. When you allow your emotions to pass through you without judgment, fear or shame, they eventually subside. What you are left with is an increased ability to handle difficult moments, an improved perspective on the distressing situation and greater inner peace.
Resources for substance use disorders abound, and I recommend taking advantage of them. Consult a medical or mental health professional. Attend a recovery group. If needed, seek in-patient care.
If desired, add “overcoming addiction” or “improving my relationship with substances” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a medication provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 13: Trying alternative healing modalities such as hypnosis, reiki, acupuncture, massage, hypnosis, energy healing, supplements like Omega 3s and vitamin D, indigenous healing practices and more
Alternative healing methods are often recommended for people with depression. However, your mileage may vary. If you decide to try reiki, hypnosis, acupuncture, massage or something similar, consider it an enhancement technique–part of a larger plan for self-care. Reported benefits include reduced pain, increased relaxation and improved focus. Some of these methods might also help people gain the inner peace and emotional strength to make needed changes in their lives, such as improved outlooks, habits and self-talk.
Though research on their effectiveness is mixed at best, and they are not government-regulated, St. John’s Wort, 5-HTP, vitamin D, omega 3 fatty acids and other supplements are often used as treatments for depression. Many people report mental health benefits, but keep in mind that brand matters: significant differences in potency and quality exist. Also, health claims made on labels and in advertising are not fact-checked by any agency or third party, and even content labels can be wrong. Always consult with a licensed medical provider for more information on safety, effectiveness and possible interactions.
If desired, add “try alternative healing modalities” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
The hippies were onto something: when properly taken, psychedelics–ketamine, magic mushrooms, LSD, MDMA and others–can provide significant (and fast) relief from depression for many people. They are especially recommended for people with severe, treatment-resistant depression.
The effectiveness of these substances comes from their ability to quickly and dramatically alter the user’s neural pathways. When taken in a carefully crafted therapeutic environment that includes professional assessment, planning, oversight, and counseling, they can help people replace unhelpful stories and perspectives with new, vastly different ones. History is rewritten.
According to current studies and Michael Pollan’s excellent, comprehensive book How to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence, psychedelics are not addictive and have a low risk of physical harm. However, mental harm such as paranoia or psychosis can occur, and people with bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and certain other mental disorders should not take them. Consult with your mental health provider on legal and safe use.
Ketamine is a legal psychedelic commonly used for starting and maintaining anesthesia during medical procedures. Recently, anesthesiologists across the U.S. have set up clinics to administer ketamine off-label for mood disorders. Other medical providers specially trained in psychedelic-assisted therapy are offering ketamine treatment in smaller, private settings. These treatments can be expensive, and are rarely or never covered by insurance at the time of this writing. However, like other psychedelics, ketamine’s effect on depression is reportedly swift and significant. In clinics, it is administered intravenously.
Esketamine is a legal psychedelic that is almost identical to ketamine on a molecular level. It is approved for use in the U.S. as an antidepressant when prescribed by a properly credentialed psychiatrist, and it is not as expensive as ketamine. It is administered in the form of nasal spray.
Psilocybin is the active ingredient found in magic mushrooms and magic truffles. Research on psilocybin for depression is in its early stages, but is quite promising.
Though MDMA is shown to have similar efficacy as that of other psychedelics, it is often sold as ecstasy or molly, and these drugs are unsafe. They sometimes contain methamphetamine, a highly addictive substance. In addition, some research has shown that repeated use of MDMA can lower one’s baseline mood, though this finding is controversial. Finally, it is known for creating a next-day hangover effect in some people, in which users experience depression, irritability and lack of motivation for a day or more following their use. Still, psychedelic advocates are currently seeking the legalization of MDMA and other psychedelics in addition to ketamine.
Before trying a psychedelic, read about its possible long-term effects, which for some might include psychosis and suicidal thoughts. Do not purchase these substances illegally, and carefully follow your prescriber’s recommendations regarding dosage, substance interactions and more.
If desired, add “consider psychedelic therapy” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 11: Undergoing Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) or another form of trauma therapy
EMDR is a surprising therapy. The most surprising part: it works. Studies show that this unique technique, which involves making side-to-side eye movements while a therapist helps you process your trauma stories, reduces some trauma symptoms with relative rapidity. If you suffer from PTSD, or you think that your personal history might be contributing to your depression, you might want to consider this treatment option.
To locate an EMDR-trained therapist, a good place to start is PsychologyToday.com. This website is the most-used referral site for counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists and other mental health professionals and the search function seems to work fairly well.
Once you have identified providers, ask them about their EMDR training, experience and credentials; the practitioner’s skill level is a significant factor in its effectiveness. Your counselor should have experience with other forms of trauma therapy as well, as EMDR is contraindicated for some people.
When undergoing any form of trauma therapy, carefully consider your level of tolerance. Plan for possible lingering emotional effects and choose the environment and timing that is right for you. Practice your preferred emotional coping skills before and after therapy and provide feedback to your counselor about what you feel able to handle on any given day.
If desired, add “try EMDR” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a medication provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 10: Undergoing Cranial Electrotherapy Stimulation (CES) or Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS)
Cranial electrotherapy stimulation (CES) is a therapeutic treatment in which a handheld electric pulse generator is connected to the scalp. Painless, low-level currents stimulate electrical movements in the brain, which possibly help alter existing neural pathways. Patients are prescribed the device, then use it at home for a few minutes a day. Side effects are few, but the efficacy of these devices for depression is not yet proven.
Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) is the in-office version of CES. Due to the effectiveness of this treatment, in recent years, TMS clinics have been established in many areas. TMS is more intense than CES, and memory loss has been reported.
Related but less often prescribed treatments are electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and deep brain stimulation, both of which might have greater side effects than TMS or CES.
People with severe, treatment-resistant depression might want to consider one of these therapies. Just do your research first, both on the treatment of choice and on providers in your area.
For a thoughtful, thorough account of these treatments, read the relevant sections in The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression by Andrew Solomon. Just keep in mind that his account was published in 2015, and might be somewhat outdated due to changes in technology.
If desired, add “consider undergoing CES or TMS” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 9: Taking antidepressants
Though the exact mechanisms by which antidepressants work is as yet unknown, and studies are complicated by the placebo effect, evidence of their effectiveness is mounting. Most psychiatric professionals recommend them and see good results, and their patients do, too. It is a basic tenet of the therapeutic process to trust your client, and enough of my clients report significant benefits of antidepressants to convince me of their effectiveness.
The people who feel stuck and unable to make the kinds of changes that lead to an improved mood, as well as the people who have made many positive changes but still see no improvement, are the people that could benefit most from medication. In many cases, the advantages far outweigh the risks and side effects.
There are many reasons clients choose not to take medication for their anxiety and depression, though, and the choice is a highly personal one. In general, I recommend that people base their decision on side effects, effectiveness and other medical considerations, and not on social, moral or idealist considerations. Taking medication for a mental health condition is not inherently wrong or right, healthy or unhealthy. Listen to your body.
If you’ve been prescribed an antidepressant by a primary care physician (PCP) and it doesn’t seem to be working well, find a psychiatrist or psychiatric nurse practitioner (PNP) instead. While psychiatrists are medical doctors, PNPs are nurses, and many of my clients tell me that PNPs spend more time with them and ask more questions.
Go to your first appointment prepared with information on your options as well any questions you might have. Tell your story honestly and don’t be afraid to inquire about all possible treatments in case your first line of treatment doesn’t work out. You are allowed to be your own advocate. You are also allowed to say no.
When taking antidepressants, it is important to follow your medical professional’s advice concerning use, including guidelines around length of use, dosage and (if needed) discontinuation. Antidepressants are believed to work less well in successive rounds, so cycling medications is highly discouraged. Also, at least half of the people who try medication need to try more than one before finding one that works for them, so don’t give up after your first attempt, and follow your prescriber’s advice around increasing dosage until an effective level is found.
For general information and discussion on the topic of medication, read the relevant sections in Andrew Solomon’s excellent and thorough book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression. For more specific information, consult your doctor or mental health professional.
If desired, add “consider taking antidepressants” to your depression treatment plan. Then decide on next steps, such as finding a medication provider, and write them on your short-term and/or long-term to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 8: Using nature and light therapy
Many people with and without depression report that their moods are affected by the presence or absence of natural light. And when you get that natural light outside, you might also receive the benefits of fresh air, open skies and exercise–no small extras.
Spending time out-of-doors, especially in natural environments, mentally separates us from our usual tasks and routines, helping to clear our heads. Even a short walk or quiet moment free of our four walls can interrupt an anxious or despondent moment by bringing our mental focus away from the emotional centers of our brain (the limbic system) and into the sensory centers instead.
In the book Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression–and the Unexpected Solutions, Johann Hari describes the various ways modern life creates disconnections that can lead to mood disorders. One of the most significant of these, he says, is our disconnection from nature. At least in part, spending more time outdoors might reduce depression by offering perspective: wide open spaces make us feel smaller, which helps our problems feel smaller, too. It’s a mental shift that happens almost without our noticing.
Light therapy can also be accomplished indoors with man-made lights designed for this purpose, including tanning beds at licensed professional tanning salons; however, your results may vary.
If desired, add “spending time in nature” and/or “using light therapy” to your depression treatment plan. Then set specific related goals and write them on your ongoing to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 7: Eating well
No judgment here, and no specific advice: when it comes to your diet, do what works for you. Consider whether or not your eating habits affect your mood, and if so, what changes might help. Undereating can cause depression, and overeating can, too. Avoid perfectionism and choose goals that are realistic and doable.
Of course, when it comes to food, it’s not just about physical health, but about mental health, too. Do your food-related thoughts, choices and plans help you feel more emotionally stable and healthy, or less? Answering this question can provide helpful information when assessing whether or not you’ve established habits that work for you.
If you suspect that you could benefit from a rigorously scientific perspective on nutrition, try How to Eat: All Your Food and Diet Questions Answered by Mark Bittman and David Katz. Everything by Michael Pollan is also great.
Finally, if you suspect that you might have an eating disorder, take a moment to fill out a confidential screening or start the search for help at nationaleatingdisorders.org. Food is a big part of life, and it’s hard not to be depressed or anxious if this area of functioning isn’t going well.
If desired, add “eating well” to your depression treatment plan. Then set specific food-related goals and write them on your ongoing to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 6: Improving your sleep
A complete sleep might be longer than what you’re used to, but you know when you’ve had it: you feel fully able to get out of bed and start the day’s tasks. Increased energy can increase motivation, which often increases productivity. Productivity, in turn, produces confidence and optimism. In addition, emotional energy–patience, distress tolerance, etc.–can be enhanced through proper rest. In people who are chronically tired, increased sleep might be the most effective mood booster available. It might also increase the effectiveness of other depression treatments.
Cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) is the behavioral modification therapy of choice for sleep problems. If you think you might need professional help for this issue, find a mental health counselor trained in this modality. Different people benefit from different CBT-I interventions. Briefly, CBT-I practices include:
Adjusting your sleep schedule as closely as possible to your natural circadian rhythms;
Going to bed at around the same time every night, and getting up at (as nearly as possible) the same time every morning–even on the weekends;
Using various techniques to reduce sleep anxiety;
Staying busy during the day and refraining from napping;
If needed, reducing your time in bed and/or getting out of bed during wakeful night hours to reset; and
Tracking your sleep patterns in a sleep journal.
Substance and caffeine use can significantly impact sleep, reducing the length of your phase three deep sleep and increasing the length of your less restorative REM sleep.
Finally, if you are consistently sleeping poorly even while maintaining good habits, consider setting up a consultation with a sleep specialist. You might be suffering with a sleep disorder like sleep apnea without knowing it.
If desired, add “improving my sleep” to your depression treatment plan. Then set specific sleep-related goals and write them on your ongoing to-do list.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
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Treatment option 5: Exercising regularly
When I talk with clients about exercise, I always feel a bit redundant. Most of us know that it’s one of the best non-pharmaceutical mood enhancers available. We also know that the long-term benefits–better physical health, better sleep–will likely increase our quality of life overall.
While some people report feeling a “runner’s high” after a good workout, others don’t seem to receive this benefit. If you are in the latter category, you still might notice a milder, yet significant, sense of well-being. In addition, for many people, exercise is associated with a sense of self-efficacy–even empowerment.
As discussed previously, don’t wait to feel motivated to take a long walk outside, or to follow along with a yoga YouTube video in your apartment. That feeling might never come. Unfortunately, the human mind isn’t as logical as we tend to believe: it knows the relevant facts, but it doesn’t vote for them. Instead, it votes for what’s comfortable.
Veto the vote for comfortable. If you’re not quite ready to start your new routine, consider a soft entry. Choose your days and times to exercise and put your exercise shoes or clothes on at those times every week, even if you don’t leave the house. Gradually, add small amounts of exercise (a walk around the block?) to this routine. Habit is what matters most.
From a mental health perspective, being consistent is the most important part of exercise–much more important than time spent, frequency, difficulty and other factors. Anytime you follow through with your exercise goals you have made progress–even on the days or weeks you don’t increase difficulty or see changes in your body. Your body has built or at least maintained its fitness levels that day, and more significantly, your mind has strengthened its relevant neuropathways.
After around twenty-five years of consistent exercise, it’s almost impossible for me to imagine discontinuing the habit. Over time, movement becomes more than a healthy self-care practice–it is part of your identity. You can take breaks, but it soon pulls you back; when you don’t do it, something feels missing.
That’s a good feeling.
If desired, add “exercising regularly” to your depression treatment plan. Then set specific exercise goals and add them to your ongoing to-do list.
A lot of times, when you discover something great, you overestimate its greatness just a bit. Well, okay, sometimes more than a bit.
Sometimes you get way too excited.
Every once in a while, though, your excitement proves justified. And when that happens, you cross the line. Before you were a fan, a follower, an advocate.
Now, you’re a believer.
Granted, when I discovered Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, my hopes were high for good reason. According to articles by the National Institute for Mental Health, the National Center for Biotechnology Information and, of course, Wikipedia, CBT is the most-practiced evidence-based therapy for tons of emotional and personality disorders.
More important, when I tried it, it worked.
Unfortunately, I was late to the party; I’ve had depression my whole life, but didn’t learn about CBT till age thirty-eight. Yikes, right? I often wonder what I was thinking, not looking up popular depression therapies sooner. Then I remember exactly what I was thinking.
I was thinking spirituality was the answer.
Ouch.
I mean, spirituality is great. Spirituality works. But sometimes, other stuff works better. And every once in a while, you hit the proverbial jackpot, and you find a regular therapy that’s spiritual, too.
Which is where Byron Katie comes in.
Soon after discovering CBT, I found this teacher, and when I did, the above process repeated itself. Excitement. Enthusiasm. Fandom. Advocacy.
Then, full-on belief.
Here’s how that happened.
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It was one of Those Moments. You know the kind. They feel normal at first, then later earn an unexpected spot on your greatest-hits playlist. It was evening, and I was depressed—much more so than usual. Worse, earlier that day I’d taken a three-mile walk and even that, my go-to strategy, hadn’t helped. I didn’t get an endorphin high. I didn’t clear my mind.
I felt just as bad after as before.
If you struggle with a mood disorder I don’t have to tell you what a frightening realization this was. Will I have to starting walk more than three miles now? I wondered. Has my body acclimated to this level of exercise? Heavily pregnant, with two other children in tow, I couldn’t imagine putting more time and effort into walking than I already did. And so, after dinner, after my husband had taken our two boys to the mall, I decided to try something different. Desperate, I went to my office to scan the titles on my bookshelf, looking for anything that might help.
I didn’t actually believe I’d find something.
But I did. I found The Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns.
One year prior, I’d bought the Handbook on the advice of my doctor and then, after a brief review, dismissed it. Platitudes, I thought. Nothing new here. Nothing I haven’t heard a million times before. I had no idea it was a psychotherapy classic. (Why hadn’t the doctor told me that? Sheesh.)
That day, though—that greatest-hits day—I sat on the couch and for the first time, gave the method a chance. After reading a few chapters, I took its suggestion and started writing down every negative thought in my head. When I couldn’t think of any more, I stopped writing and counted the pages.
I’d filled seven pieces of paper on both sides.
Okay, I thought. Maybe the book is right. Maybe my depression really is caused by my thoughts.
Prior to that time, I knew negativity played a role in depression. But I had no idea how big that role was. I’m a positive person, I thought. I’m hopeful about the future. It’s a chemical imbalance that’s to blame.
And I still believe that. I’ve been moody my whole life—never lighthearted, even as a kid. But maybe, just maybe, there’s more to the story. Maybe part of the problem is solvable.
Because, it turned out, I wasn’t the optimist I thought I was. I was actually sort of the opposite, but in a different way. The kind of thoughts I wrote down that day had nothing to do with my faith in God or my many dreams of success. They weren’t about my overall health, or my financial or familial satisfaction.
They were about the little annoyances of life.
They were about the way my clothes fit, the kids’ morning moods, the tyranny of my family’s need to eat. Only a few of my troubles even mattered long-term. And yet, when I emptied the contents of my head, these silly little details were what I found. Obviously, my pessimism wasn’t as much about the significance of my negative thoughts as it was about the sheer number of them.
I had accumulated a bunch of mental crap.
And so, that night I began the process of excavation. And I haven’t stopped since.
Even after that first writing session, I noticed a change—a lifting, even a slight high. I felt the way I feel after a thirty-minute jog, or a long talk with a friend, or an especially enjoyable night out.
Holy crap, I realized. It worked.
And it did so when I was at my very worst.
And so, like I said before, after discovering CBT, my hopes were ridiculously high. Somehow, I knew that this was my game-changer, my next major level up.
Somehow, I knew it would be epic.
The cool thing is that I was right. During the month that followed the discovery, I was the most hopeful I’d been in my life regarding my ability to deal effectively with—maybe even overcome—my depression. Then, a shocking twist: I found another strategy, a variation of CBT. And for me, it was even more powerful. You probably already know what that method was. It was Byron Katie’s process of self-inquiry called The Work.
Byron Katie is a spiritual teacher, someone you may have heard of before. I had, too; the previous fall I’d even read her free ebook, The Work of Byron Katie: An Introduction. At that time, though, her ideas didn’t particularly appeal to me.
Truth be told, I wasn’t desperate enough to try it.
But after practicing CBT for a while, her name came up again, and I thought back on what I’d read. Wait a sec, I realized, Now that I think about it, The Work is a lot like CBT.
I decided to look into it again.
More about Byron Katie’s method later, and how it compares with CBT. Suffice it to say here that it’s a way to look objectively at your favorite (or not-so-favorite) thoughts. It gives you four questions to ask yourself that help you realize, deep down, what is true and what is, well, a bit crazy.
And as with CBT, my first experience with The Work didn’t disappoint.
